Helping men who feel something missing in their lives

The Disquiet in Men

Working with men as they engage the disquiet in their lives

About Dave Schoof

WHO AM I?

My story:

Dave SchoofWhen I first identified the Disquiet in myself, I had just arrived at work, parked in the parking lot. I couldn’t take my hands off my steering wheel. I sat there. I couldn’t go in. Finally, after what seemed like hours I drove home and called in sick. I knew I was in trouble. I needed help.

That was fourteen years ago. My life looked to the world as having all the trappings of success: rising in a solid career, a great salary, a killer benefit package, a family, a great house in the suburbs. And I could care less. After all that hard work to get where I got, I should have felt like king of the hill. I made it. But I felt empty and confused about feeling that way.

While trying to sort this out, someone told me about a coach that had helped him. So I started a journey that had me leave behind a lifeless career, completely redesigning my life, learn how to get where I wanted to go and how to get back on course when I drifted.

Eventually, I became a leadership coach and developed an extensive and diverse portfolio of middle and top executive clients in the federal government and private sector. While working with executive men, I began to see the patterns of this unease and became fascinated with it.

I am now focusing my practice on this Disquiet in men. In 2006, I started an ongoing study interviewing professional men about their Disquiet. (You can get an initial report about this for free, by clicking here.)

I have been trained in the best methodologies for learning, growth and change available. I know what it takes for a person to change in ways that stick. And I have a lot of experience that you can read about below.

As a result of engaging my own Disquiet, and doing this work, I have a great life! I live in the country not far from the Potomac River where I enjoy kayaking and hiking. I have 2 amazing sons and a wonderful woman with whom I share my life. I enjoy finding ways to drive them crazy. I’m pretty good at it - you can ask them! I have dogs that rule the home – or think they do, deer and wild turkey visiting my garden and the sounds of birds to greet me every morning.

I find ways to contribute and give back including helping a poor family get a fresh start, teaching meditation to different communities, volunteering with a men’s group and doing pro-bono work for special situations. This has provided a richness that compliments the gratitude I feel.

Do I still have Disquiet in my life? From time to time, yes. I have learned to pay attention to it and use it as a signal for me to look at how my life is going, and with help, navigate the new course I set. In fact it was exploring a period of Disquiet that led me to creating this focus on working with men.

And the "Official Story"

Dave SchoofI am a Washington D.C. based international consultant who has helped executives and leaders communicate more effectively, build trust, work with cynicism and resistance, navigate transitions and improve personal effectiveness.

I have over 14 years experience in serving the federal, corporate and non-profit sectors.
My clients include: Fannie Mae, NASA, Booz Allen Hamilton, ASH, Gettysburg College, ARIN, NRTC, US Department of Veterans Affairs, OPM, the Department of Justice, and the US Department of Health & Human Services.

I have developed organization-wide internal coaching programs for a federal agency and for Booz Allen and Hamilton. I served on certification committees for two coaching schools: Integral Coaching Canada, Ottawa; and New Ventures West, San Francisco. I am certified as a Master Coach by the International Coach Confederation (ICF) and an Integral Coach by Integral Coaching Canada and New Ventures West. I serve on the faculty for the Presidential Management Fellows Program.

Contact me soon to arrange a phone meeting to explore your interest and my availability.