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Dave Schoof

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What are my goals?

Tuesday, April 3rd, 2007

I have been tagged by 2 great blogs as part of a meme. DMiracle.com and NOW.com both tagged me to write about the 5-10 top goals that I have for my life.

What the heck did I just say? Let me translate: In the blogging world, called the blogosphere, blogs can actually kick off a world-wide conversation by sending other blogs a request to write about a particular subject. The articles are linked so that readers can see the entire web of articles and comments.

So this is a meme about goals. Here are mine. Like Dawud, my overarching goal is to take my last breath knowing I have lived life fully and have few regrets.
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You should have your own Corporate Board

Thursday, March 29th, 2007

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One of the critical areas I focus on when working with a client is to help him establish what I call his “structures of support”. This means creating and maintaining processes, systems and people to support his new way of living as he emerges from his Disquiet.

If you read the biographies of successful leaders, you will discover that most of them had mentors and advisors in their lives. I formalize this with some of my clients by tasking them to create their own corporate board. Just as a CEO would have a group of people with a vested interest in how successful he or she is doing, you can do the same.

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Do you have good anger or bad anger?

Tuesday, March 27th, 2007

mensj.jpgIn the April edition of Men’s Journal, Jason Fagone wrote an article, “The Upside of Anger“. He writes:

“Getting angry is part of being a man and it’s not always pretty. But psychologists now believe that sometimes a little anger can be a healthy thing”

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Resource roundup for March

Wednesday, March 21st, 2007

Here are some of the best resources out there for helping you work with different aspects of your Disquiet. They cover good stuff for health, the workplace, family, inspiration. As a fun bonus, I added a cool guy thing that actually has serious functionality. Enjoy!!!!

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How to know what you want

Saturday, March 17th, 2007

When you start to get in touch with your Disquiet, you may feel the heaviness of dissatisfaction with how your life is not going the way you want. You want it to change. But change to what? You know what you don’t want, but what do you really want? It’s a tough question.

When I coach a man with Disquiet, one of the biggest chunks of work is getting clarity on what he wants. I don’t mean general goals or just a desire for a more satisfying life. What I mean are specific goals. This can be really hard for someone to identify for themselves without some outside help.

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“I need to wake up” to the Disquiet

Monday, March 12th, 2007

“I need to wake up”, is Melissa Etheridge’s anthem for the documentary, “An Inconvenient Truth” on global warming.

It’s a powerful song about the need to wake up and act. I think it also captures the essence of the Disquiet and the call to action. Check out these passages. Don’t they really capture the Disquiet?

Have I been sleeping? I’ve been so still afraid of crumbling
Have I been careless? Dismissing all the distant rumblings
Take me where I am supposed to be To comprehend the things that I can’t see

Cause I need to move I need to wake up
I need to change I need to shake up I need to speak out
Something’s got to break up
I’ve been asleep And I need to wake up Now

And as a child I danced like it was 1999
My dreams were wild The promise of this new world
Would be mine Now I am throwing off the carelessness of youth
To listen to an inconvenient truth

Here are the lyrics to the entire song. And here is the video.
(Thanks U- Tube and BCSDude7189)

Melissa Ethridge’s I Need To Wake Up Music Video from Al Gore’s “An Inconvenient Truth”.
06:00 - November 26, 2006

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