Forrest Whitaker gave a very inspiring acceptance speech at the Oscars.

This is a man who clearly has navigated his Disquiet. He speaks of his vocation as a way of connecting to the light that is in each of us. He is a bright light. He exemplifies a man who knows what he is about and his life work has lined up as an external expression of it.

You know at some deep level when you are in the presence or hear from a man who is
rock-solid about what he is living for. The kind of being that can only come from doing the hard work of struggling and then learning from his Disquiet. It’s a hard journey but you can see a great example of the benefits here.
You can see and hear the speech here. There is a brief scene of the movie for which he won the best actor and the speech follows.

You can read the text of his speech here, thanks to CK. And thanks to Dawud for turning me on to the speech.

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Important information about men and depression.

In the February 26 issue of Newsweek, there is an important cover feature on some of the latest findings about the nature of depression and how more men suffer from it than previously thought. The article has some important findings which I will outline here.

I am writing about this here because some of the key points are related to
Men’s Disquietâ„¢. I want to be careful here. I am not saying that someone who is struggling with their Disquiet is clinically depressed. But the studies are now showing that not dealing with lengthy or severe stress can lead to depression.

Men who suffer from prolonged stress can become depressed. Not dealing with one’s Disquiet can be very stressful.

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Announcing the Family Support Seriesâ„¢!

This is a new feature that is included in my two premier coaching programs: Engaging the Disquiet Coaching Program and the Empty Success Programâ„¢. As part of their coaching, my clients learn how to support their families while they go through some pretty significant changes.

In other articles, I have talked about the stress on a family when someone undergoes any significant personal change. Most folks don’t think that self improvement work like that found in coaching programs, deep spiritual work, therapy and other endeavors could have a negative impact. It can.

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Is he it?

I read an interesting article from a blog I just discovered called Quiet Paws. It was so good I am presenting it in its entirety here (see below). A continuing issue that comes up in the interviews I am conducting with men from all over the world is the question, what does it mean to be a man today? I have written several posts around mens’ roles:

“Men look like jerks and wimps on TV”

Is being tough or sensitive a forced choice?

What are the 5 things a woman desires in a man?

Passing on your wisdom - what would you say?

Being a superhero can be disquieting

4 tips for dads with Disquiet

The article from Quiet Paws builds on this nicely. I don’t know whether Jack Bauer is the answer for the question of what it means to be a man. But it is interesting to see the pop icons that represent the changing roles.

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I know I know, Valentines Day. A day of suffering for many folks. This manufactured event for commercial gain has created a lot of stress. First, God help you if you forget. Then, for some, it is automatically following the ritual of card/roses/candy and having no real connection to why they are doing this other than it will be hurtful not to. For others, the pressure to continually top the previous years’ feats of demonstrating the strength of their love or ability to be romantic. And for those who find themselves unattached on this day, trying to ignore all the reminders that they are supposed to be in relationship.

And then comes a nice reminder from 5000+ years ago from a town mentioned in Shakespeare’s “Romeo and Juliet“. Check this out:

ROME (Reuters) - Call it the eternal embrace.

Archaeologists in Italy have discovered a couple buried 5,000 to 6,000 years ago, hugging each other. “It’s an extraordinary case,” said Elena Menotti, who led the team on their dig near the northern city of Mantova.

“There has not been a double burial found in the Neolithic period, much less two people hugging — and they really are hugging.”

Menotti said she believed the two, almost certainly a man and a woman although that needs to be confirmed, died young because their teeth were mostly intact and not worn down.

“I must say that when we discovered it, we all became very excited. I’ve been doing this job for 25 years. I’ve done digs at Pompeii, all the famous sites,” she told Reuters.

“But I’ve never been so moved because this is the discovery of something special.”

Now that is romantic! It is a touching gift from the past. So here’s to looking past the red cardboard heart-shaped boxes and pink-everythings.

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