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The Disquiet in Men

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“I need to wake up” to the Disquiet

Monday, March 12th, 2007

“I need to wake up”, is Melissa Etheridge‘s anthem for the documentary, “An Inconvenient Truth” on global warming.

It’s a powerful song about the need to wake up and act. I think it also captures the essence of the Disquiet and the call to action. Check out these passages. Don’t they really capture the Disquiet?

Have I been sleeping? I’ve been so still afraid of crumbling
Have I been careless? Dismissing all the distant rumblings
Take me where I am supposed to be To comprehend the things that I can’t see

Cause I need to move I need to wake up
I need to change I need to shake up I need to speak out
Something’s got to break up
I’ve been asleep And I need to wake up Now

And as a child I danced like it was 1999
My dreams were wild The promise of this new world
Would be mine Now I am throwing off the carelessness of youth
To listen to an inconvenient truth

Here are the lyrics to the entire song. And here is the video.
(Thanks U- Tube and BCSDude7189)

Melissa Ethridge’s I Need To Wake Up Music Video from Al Gore’s “An Inconvenient Truth”.
06:00 – November 26, 2006

I can change how you see the world in 6 minutes

Thursday, March 8th, 2007

What we focus on in our lives creates our world. We tend to think that view is the total reality. Every once in a while, something you see or experience shakes up that world view. It is like jumping awake after we doze off. We are startled. Things look different. Things are different.

Working with the Disquiet requires shaking up our world view. We change what we are focused on. Expanding it to include a new view is like increasing the bandwidth. It allows us to see things that were impossible to see before. So the first key step is changing our view.


The Power of Practice

Monday, November 13th, 2006



Whenever I hear that word, I flash back my mom and my music teacher screaming that order. I am 9 and chained to a piano doing scales and tapping out the song “As the saints go marching in” over and over….and over. “Blahhhhhh!”

There must be some kind of karma thing to this for me because now the word “practice” is a regular part of my vocabulary.

You will hear me talk a lot about practices. As a coach, I assign practices to clients to help them uncover new ways to work with their coaching issue. It takes regular repetition, self observation and feedback to change a behavior, learn a new skill or change how you operate in the world. (more…)

How Physics shows us where to start a personal change

Friday, November 10th, 2006

When you want to change something about yourself, most of us try to go right into action and try to change the outcome. And it might work….but only for a short while. To effect lasting change you must start with how you are seeing not only the issue, but how you see yourself going through your life. (more…)