I have been receiving a lot of wonderful feedback, emails and comments from women on this blog and at the website. They have a lot to say, ranging from discussing their own Disquiet and it’s similarities and differences to men’s, to how they really see the Disquiet in the men in their lives and want help on how to support them.

This huge and favorable response led me to designing the family support series as part of my coaching programs. This is unique support system to help my client support his family while he is undergoing significant favorable changes in the coaching. You can read more about it here.

I also am going to start posting articles specifically for the women and families supporting the men in their lives who are struggling with their Disquiet.

Please let me know topics you would like me to cover by leaving comments below or sending me an email. Thanks!

Popularity: 9% [?]

Announcing the Family Support Seriesâ„¢!

This is a new feature that is included in my two premier coaching programs: Engaging the Disquiet Coaching Program and the Empty Success Programâ„¢. As part of their coaching, my clients learn how to support their families while they go through some pretty significant changes.

In other articles, I have talked about the stress on a family when someone undergoes any significant personal change. Most folks don’t think that self improvement work like that found in coaching programs, deep spiritual work, therapy and other endeavors could have a negative impact. It can.

(more…)

Popularity: 13% [?]

I know I know, Valentines Day. A day of suffering for many folks. This manufactured event for commercial gain has created a lot of stress. First, God help you if you forget. Then, for some, it is automatically following the ritual of card/roses/candy and having no real connection to why they are doing this other than it will be hurtful not to. For others, the pressure to continually top the previous years’ feats of demonstrating the strength of their love or ability to be romantic. And for those who find themselves unattached on this day, trying to ignore all the reminders that they are supposed to be in relationship.

And then comes a nice reminder from 5000+ years ago from a town mentioned in Shakespeare’s “Romeo and Juliet“. Check this out:

ROME (Reuters) - Call it the eternal embrace.

Archaeologists in Italy have discovered a couple buried 5,000 to 6,000 years ago, hugging each other. “It’s an extraordinary case,” said Elena Menotti, who led the team on their dig near the northern city of Mantova.

“There has not been a double burial found in the Neolithic period, much less two people hugging — and they really are hugging.”

Menotti said she believed the two, almost certainly a man and a woman although that needs to be confirmed, died young because their teeth were mostly intact and not worn down.

“I must say that when we discovered it, we all became very excited. I’ve been doing this job for 25 years. I’ve done digs at Pompeii, all the famous sites,” she told Reuters.

“But I’ve never been so moved because this is the discovery of something special.”

Now that is romantic! It is a touching gift from the past. So here’s to looking past the red cardboard heart-shaped boxes and pink-everythings.

Popularity: 6% [?]

Don’t forget the kids!

Sometimes when we are struggling in our lives, we lose focus of everything but our suffering. Ever notice that? It’s like that becomes the only thing you can really see. Everything else gets blurry. I remember when I decided my next car would be a Subaru Forrester. All of a sudden, that is all I saw on the road!. One day they didn’t exist and the next, the entire human race was driving one. It’s funny how what we are focused on filters what we see - and what we don’t. Those cars weren’t all purchased in one day. This shows up as well in the struggle with the Disquiet. It can consume you, taking all of your focus. And things can disappear from your view.

The idea about focus came up after reading an article on tips for being a good dad at Men’s Health. It was pretty good, but more importantly, it triggered some memories of when I was really struggling through what I figured was a midlife crisis when my kids were in their preteens. (more…)

 Podcast [6:34m]: Play Now | Play in Popup | Download

Popularity: 11% [?]

Ever come home from work feeling totally lousy about how the day ended up going?

It started great. You had several fires flare up that you handled skillfully. Your boss beamed and you felt on top of the world.

Then, as the day started winding down, a last minute short-fused tasking came down from on high and your high-flying staffer bungled it. Splat. A colleague blames you for not being there to handle it. One minute you were king of the world, the next you are a complete failure.

How you process this - the self recrimination, second-guessing , or shrugging it off, will depend on how your dad handled such things.

(more…)

Popularity: 7% [?]

Here is an interesting article I read on Nicolette Beard’s man-o-pause Blog (BTW, she has a great blog, check it out). In her article, she describes a new book that may be helpful:

My friend, Eliot Katz, author of Being a Strong Man a Woman Wants, wrote me to say that he’s now marketing his book to…Women! After several months in print, he realized that his main buyers are women, who give it to men with the comment, “This is what I’ve been trying to tell you all this time.”

So what exactly are women trying to tell men?

(more…)

 Podcast [4:14m]: Play Now | Play in Popup | Download

Popularity: 11% [?]