Jean Browman, at Happy Monk, posted an article that caught my eye after she sent me the link (Thanks Jean!). She is kicking off an important discussion that I want to grow here as well. So I posted part of her article below and threw in my 2 cents. I’d like your thoughts as well.

At Home In the Universe

Like all of my [Jean's] posts, this one is presented as food for thought, and hopefully to start a conversation. Does this picture resonate with you at all? For instance, have you ever felt you looked at things differently from other people…that a part of you was alone in the universe? If so, what was your reaction? Were you frightened… depressed… exhilarated… lonely? What did you do?

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My client was really struggling with feeling lost in his life. A senior executive, he had a successful career, healthy family, a huge house in the country, took vacations…he had all that comes with the good life. The American Dream. And he felt absolutely dead inside. A zombie.

If you read my site you will learn about a particular aspect of Disquiet: one which emerges when someone is at the top of their game, has all the trappings of having made it, and yet, does not feel connected to that success.

Often they feel nothing, dead inside. They have long forgotten why they worked so hard to get what they dreamed of and now feel no sense of accomplishment or satisfaction. I have found this theme among many of my clients. I call it the Empty Success Syndromeâ„¢.

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I am re-posting this earlier article because this is such a good resouce for men with Disquiet. It is now standard issue for my clients.

A book I highly recommend for understanding and working with the Disquiet is Thomas Moore’s latest book, “The Dark Nights of the Soul, a Guide to Finding Your Way Thorough Life’s Ordeals” This is a great book by a great writer. Some you may know him from an earlier important work, “Care of the Soul ” .

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As you become more aware of the Disquiet (articles about the Disquiet here) in your life and its costs to you and others, there is frequently a wish that you didn’t know about it.  OR a greater desire to go back to “simpler times”.  We all fantasize about the times when we weren’t suffering and life wasn’t so complicated or hard. I frequently get messages like this:  

How do I get back to the person I was and really and truly enjoyed?   I use to love life, had a lot of fun, and truly enjoyed who I was. Very little of that still exists”

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I am repeatedly amazed at the power of the blog. In the 10 months and 110 posts, I have heard from people from all around the world. Almost 400 comments have been posted here. And I have received hundreds of emails.

The Disquiet has hit a nerve. People resonate with it. Men are nodding in recognition to their struggle with it. Women see it in the men in their lives. (more…)

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My good friend and business coach, Dawud, recently asked me on his bog about my current learning edge.  It’s a great question.  I think of learning edge as the place where I bump into the outer limit of something I can do or understand.  It causes me to have to lean into it and stretch a bit.  And that is uncomfortable - that reach beyond what is known.
While uncomfortable, it is required to grow.  I think it’s required to just live fully. 

So my edge? Right now it is how to be open to not believing I know the truth.  Sounds kind of philosophical, but I mean more in the day to day stuff.  I keep discovering I operate as if I know what is right or how it must be in situation.  My son and I hit a bumpy patch and I know what needs to be done.  I see the truth - it’s that simple.  (more…)

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