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How to Create New Year’s Resolutions that Stick


Here is a collection of the best resources I found for working on completing your 2006 and planning for what’s next in 2007.

Just about everyone I know has struggled with the New Year Resolution Game. It goes something like this: You declare the changes you will make as a result of being unhappy, frustrated and even disgusted with your current state. You feel pumped, committed, and in-action. You buy gear, join clubs, start diets, order books, buy clothes… all the things you need to be a new you.

You dive in, sleep less, get up earlier and you are actually doing new things: working out, eating healthy, stopped smoking, looking for new job/mate/home, etc. And it goes on for a while – until around March or so. Then splat. It dies the death of all the other commitments.

How can it be different this year? Check these links that can help you set intentions, create a path and stay on target for lasting and important changes. There is a reason behind the ritual of resolutions on January 1st. It is the time for change. Throw out what is not working in your life and take on creating how you want your life to be going.

Where do I begin?

Taking Stock of 2006: Here is a great series of posts by Curt Rosengren about how to wrap up your year. This is a good place to start!

Theme-Based New Years resolutions by Stephen Shapiro, author of “Goal-Free Living”

In Twenty Years, What Do You Want to Remember?” by Rick Cokrum. This is a tip-rich article that I highly recommend.

How do I overcome difficult times?

Alvin Soon at Life Coaches Blog detailed a great checklist in an article that is very good and definitely helpful in navigating your Disquiet.

What do I need to do to start?

Dr Hal wrote about the importance of just showing up as the first step. He writes that “Showing up” was the title of a recent post by Steve Pavlina. Steve shared Woody Allen’s quote “80% of success is showing up”. Steve elaborated this concept by rightfully concluding, “While merely showing up won’t guarantee success, it’s certainly is a prerequisite”. This is an important step – read more here.

OK, I know what I want to do, but how do I do to get started and stay on track?

From Lifehack, “How to get started on Anything”, an interesting post on help around overcoming procrastination.

Back at Life Coaches Blog, Alvin gives great techno tips to support you in How To Make It Easier To Get Things Done

From Motto Magazine, sage advise on how to slow down and look at where you’re going

What can I do about my health?

An interesting series that takes you through an array of natural health practices, spiritual beliefs and alternative therapies.

How to work with the winter blues from NPR

At New York Times: Brain Health “One of the Hottest Topics in the Next Five Years

From Men’s Health: 6 tips for building strength and burning fat all year long

So there you have it. There is a lot here. Have fun poking around and finding what helps. You do not need to do everything here. Just work with what seems helpful. Good Luck.

Happy New Year!

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8 Responses to “How to Create New Year’s Resolutions that Stick”

  1. North Star Mental Fitness Blog Says:

    New Year’s Resolutions…

    New Year’s Resolutions are often False Starts for the Upcoming Year. I read 86% of people fail to keep their Resolutions through the month of February. Karen Lynch in her blog on Resolutions, wrote that New Year’s Resolutions are a…

  2. Dawud Says:

    Thanks Dave. Great post. I’ll certainly use these suggestions in the the New Year.

  3. Rick Cockrum Says:

    Hi Dave,

    Thanks for the inclusion. I think one of the reasons most New Year’s resolutions don’t last is that people make them on the basis of what they think they should want, rather than what they really want.

  4. Craig Harper Says:

    Hey Dave – Great Post!

    The reason New Years resolutions don’t work is that motivation is temporary. Don’t let it derail your journey or deprive you of what you could become.

    As an Exercise Scientist and Trainer I have spent much of the last twenty-five years helping people change their body. Smaller, bigger, lighter, leaner, more muscle, more flexibility, speed, power… Athletes, non-athletes, kids, mums, dads…..whatever they were after; that’s what I did my best to deliver.

    If you want an amazing life and you’re all about creating positive change, then learn to deal with, if not embrace, discomfort.

    Sorry Dude.
    Just how it is.

    Keep up the great writing Dave!

    Craig Harper

  5. Dave Schoof Says:

    Dawud – you’re welcome, glad they help. Happy New Year!

    Hi Rick – you are most welcome. I always enjoy your articles. I strongly agree with you – that is one of the traps I find myself as well as my clients in all of the time. And it’s sometimes really hard to discern the differnce. Thanks for that point!

    Craig – Welcome! Yea, there is no getting around the fact it takes more than that initial burst of commitment. That is why intentions alone don’t work. What is it that we can use that helps us stay in it long after it starts getting hard and uncomfortable? That is the necessary element isn’t it?

  6. Allen Says:

    Here’s the best way to keep on focus…

    How To Be In Synch With Your Daily Yin and Yang Rhythms…

    A fascinating new way to move into synchronicity can be found at

    For individuals, in the aligning of oneself with their higher knowing and cyclical rhythms, there is another time-line, a soul time. For creating the magic of synchronicity in your life – this project’s free Google gadget utilizes all the computational genius of the TimeGnosis system, and reads your “field” in real time to pick, inside of that day’s number archetype, a particular phrase that is your ideal focus for that day.

  7. Dave Says:

    Thanks Alan – I will check the link out.

  8. Florian Says:

    I found your blog via google by accident and have to admit that youve a really interesting blog 🙂
    Just saved your feed in my reader, have a nice day 🙂

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