http://www.thedisquiet.com A place for discussion and questions on articles, news and issues pertaining to navigating the unease in men's lives. Sat, 07 Jun 2008 13:07:22 +0000 http://backend.userland.com/rss092 en I have been getting a lot of emails lately from people sharing what they are doing in trying to work with their Disquiet. I found myself referring back to an article I had written a while ago. So I thought it might be helpful to dust it off ... http://www.thedisquiet.com/the-disquiet/whatever-you-do-dont-do-this-encore/ Here is a fascinating video of a talk by a brain neuroanatomist, Jill Bolte Taylor, who had a stroke. The scientist in her kicked in as she bore witness to what was happening to her. Inside the tragedy, she discovered some amazing insights about how the brain ... http://www.thedisquiet.com/discussions/a-scientist-and-her-stroke-of-insight/ Have you had that experience of waking in the middle of the night worrying about your life and how it's not going right? Isn't it amazing how you can almost feel the acceleration of the thoughts and then the panic deep in your gut flash-ignites as more and more things ... http://www.thedisquiet.com/the-disquiet/hit-the-pause-button/ If you haven't been to LifeTwo.com for while, I recommend a visit. Wesley and Greg have done an amazing job of building a information-packed community center dealing with midlife issues in all its forms. The subject of changing careers recently came up. Wesley writes: "Changing careers in middle ... http://www.thedisquiet.com/the-disquiet/making-the-big-change-stories-from-the-front/ Whether or not you agree with his politics, there is no denying that Obama has tapped into the deep Disquiet in this country. In this video, several musicians blended with a speech that is giving voice to that Disquiet. Yes We Can Song - Barack Obama Song by Will.I.Am [youtube 2fZHou18Cdk] What if ... http://www.thedisquiet.com/discussions/yes-we-can-giving-voice-to-the-disquiet/ The answer: Go deep and hold the paradoxes. This wisdom comes from Philosopher Peter Koestenbaum, who works with business leaders trying to lead more effectively. In an article "Do You Have the Will to Lead? in February's issue of Fast Company (here is the full article), Koestenbaum proposes you must answer ... http://www.thedisquiet.com/change/what-are-key-skills-in-working-with-important-change/ I receive a lot of emails from wives whose husbands have left them or are discovered having an affair.  "He must be having a midlife crisis". Is it?  In a NY Times article, Dr Richard Friedman, a professor of psychiatry at Weill Cornell Medical College, challenges the notion. In discussing one ... http://www.thedisquiet.com/the-disquiet/what-if-its-not-a-midlife-crisis/ “Time for Change” focuses on different issues about the Disquiet. It’s like a coaching conversation in which I will work on a particular aspect and provide steps you can take to work with your own Disquiet. You can ask questions or share you experiences here in the comments below. The ... http://www.thedisquiet.com/newsletter/dont_die_like_the_frog/ This post was originally created in December 2006.  It is re-posted here by popular demand. Disquiet and the Holidays Alister Sim as Scrooge 1951 www.cedmagic.com I want to just go to an island without colored light-strings, department store carols, or the TV screaming at me to buy stuff at 1am for the best deals. ... http://www.thedisquiet.com/the-disquiet/bah-humbug-a-holiday-first-aid-list/ A friend sent me this. It is a gift of great wisdom and relevant to working with the Disquiet. I thought it appropriate to share in its entirety at Thanksgiving. Jose Stevens is a healer, shaman and teacher. The Human ToolBox by Jose Stevens The human experience comes with a ... http://www.thedisquiet.com/life/three-tools-you-already-have/ Jean Browman, at Happy Monk, posted an article that caught my eye after she sent me the link (Thanks Jean!). She is kicking off an important discussion that I want to grow here as well. So I posted part of her article below and threw in my 2 ... http://www.thedisquiet.com/the-disquiet/are-you-connected/ My client was really struggling with feeling lost in his life. A senior executive, he had a successful career, healthy family, a huge house in the country, took vacations…he had all that comes with the good life. The American Dream. And he felt absolutely dead inside. A zombie. If you read ... http://www.thedisquiet.com/the-disquiet/where-do-you-get-your-sense-of-success/ I am re-posting this earlier article because this is such a good resouce for men with Disquiet. It is now standard issue for my clients. A book I highly recommend for understanding and working with the Disquiet is Thomas Moore's latest book, "The Dark Nights of the Soul, a ... http://www.thedisquiet.com/the-disquiet/the-best-book-for-working-with-the-disquiet/ I am traveling a lot these days. It's been a while since I lived out of a suitcase. I had forgotten how traveling accentuates what is important in my life. I feel the pang of missing my family. I sense a deeper appreciation for things like ... http://www.thedisquiet.com/discussions/road-warriors-and-the-disquiet/ As you become more aware of the Disquiet (articles about the Disquiet here) in your life and its costs to you and others, there is frequently a wish that you didn't know about it.  OR a greater desire to go back to "simpler times".  We all fantasize about the times when ... http://www.thedisquiet.com/the-disquiet/cant-go-back-and-thats-good/