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Are you Connected?

Jean Browman, at Happy Monk, posted an article that caught my eye after she sent me the link (Thanks Jean!). She is kicking off an important discussion that I want to grow here as well. So I posted part of her article below and threw in my 2 cents. I’d like your thoughts as well.

At Home In the Universe

man floating free in space

Like all of my [Jean’s] posts, this one is presented as food for thought, and hopefully to start a conversation. Does this picture resonate with you at all? For instance, have you ever felt you looked at things differently from other people…that a part of you was alone in the universe? If so, what was your reaction? Were you frightened… depressed… exhilarated… lonely? What did you do?

The decisive question for man is:
Is he related to something infinite or not?
That is the telling question of his life.

Only if we know that the thing which truly matters is the infinite can we avoid fixing our interests upon futilities, and upon all kinds of goals which are not of real importance….

In the final analysis, we count for something only because of the essential we embody, and if we do not embody that, life is wasted.
—Carl Jung

I believe that this fundamental question is underneath the Disquiet. Sure I talk about the disconnection with the inner guidance or the source and nature of a deep sense of success. And how not engaging the signals we get when we are off course results in the crisis in midlife crisis.

Underneath all of that is this fundamental question. And I don’t think it’s in how we answer the questions that causes suffering. It’s not asking the question in the first place that creates the unease. In not asking, we are forgetting a deep truth about our essence. Not why we are here or where we are going, but who we are. What we are.

What do you think?

I welcome your comments and questions. And I toss this out to some of my fellow travelers who are blogging: Dawud, Wesley, Liz, Rick, and Travis

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7 Responses to “Are you Connected?”

  1. Jean Browman--Cheerful Monk Says:

    Thank you for extending the discussion. It means a lot to me.

  2. Bob Says:

    It is a good topic, isn’t it? I’m planning a post for Sunday in response as well.

  3. Rick Cockrum Says:

    I’ve always loved that picture, Dave. When I first saw it, it fascinated me and gave me a rush like looking up inside a Gothic cathedral or meditation going well. Over time I’ve figured out part of it.

    To me, the picture is an image of perspective and connection. Man hovers on the line between heaven and earth, existing in and joining both. The image is one of hope, not alienation.

  4. Wesley Says:

    Fascinating topic Dave. It reminds me of a tangential issue that was prompted by this comment of yours:

    “It’s not asking the question in the first place that creates the unease. In not asking, we are forgetting a deep truth about our essence.”

    If someone is absolutely euphoric, are they happy? How about if the source of their euphoria is drugs? Would you call their bliss happiness? I wouldn’t because to me there needs to be some meaning or purpose to the bliss for it to be happiness.

    But perhaps this is just my bias. What if someone had no such qualms would they be any less blissful?

    Similarly I have certainly felt alone but I’m not sure if I ever figured out if it was the answers that I didn’t like or the questions that were at the root of it.

    I look forward to seeing where this goes.

  5. Tina Su Says:

    I really like the picture, and I love you blog.keep it up.

    Love & Gratitude,
    Think Simple. Be Decisive.

  6. Sunday Reading 28 October 2007 Says:

    […] In Are you Connected? Dave Schoof at Engaging the Disquiet joined in a meme focused around a beautiful image of man in space, to which he invited me. I’m looking forward to the post I do. […]

  7. Are You Connected? Says:

    […] From Alex Shalman, to Jean Browman, to Dave Schoof. Questions, thoughts, expressions and responses pass from one to another. Voices echo through the network and through our souls. Long distance conversations verberate through time and space. […]

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