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How Physics shows us where to start a personal change

When you want to change something about yourself, most of us try to go right into action and try to change the outcome. And it might work….but only for a short while. To effect lasting change you must start with how you are seeing not only the issue, but how you see yourself going through your life.

In an article by Rick Cockrum, Three Laws of Belief:

The way human beliefs work in the human world are remarkably similar to the way Newton’s three laws of motion work in the physical world.

The Three Laws of Beliefs

  • If you retain the same beliefs, you will continue to find yourself in similar circumstances. If you don’t change, your world won’t change.
  • When you do change a belief, the new belief will interact with current beliefs to create a set of circumstances congruent with the new set of beliefs. Beliefs don’t exist in a vacuum.
  • Every belief creates a corresponding reaction in your world. This is a restatement of the law of attraction.

So the change you want doesn’t start with a new action. It starts by looking at how you are looking at the issue and at the world. It may feel like asking a fish to look at the water it’s floating in. Catching onto your beliefs can be challenging.

It’s a bit easier when you have someone to help. Listening to how you describe a challenge, another person can hear the underlying beliefs.

How can you do it for yourself? Write them down. By capturing, in your own words, what you are experiencing, feeling and thinking as you want to try to change something, will give you a lot if insight into the operating beliefs. You can see them in how you describe your situation.

Pretend you are one of the CSI forensic guys examining the writing, trying to understand who the writer was. Look at what you can learn (about yourself) by looking at what the writing focuses on and what it might leave out. Where does the writer (you) come alive? Go dead? What is important to this writer? All hints that point to the beliefs.

When you catch on to how you are seeing your challenge, you can see the beliefs. Change your belief and you change the resulting action.

Try it and let us know what happens!


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2 Responses to “How Physics shows us where to start a personal change”

  1. Rick Cockrum Says:

    Hi Dave,

    Thank you for thinking this is a worthwhile approach.

    Writing down your perceptions of an event is a great technique to discover your underlying beliefs. When you’re working alone, there aren’t many things that can replace it.

    We’ve created a culture that sees the outside circumstances as a cause. This is one way for us to learn that it an effect of who we are and how we think individually and as groups

  2. Dave Schoof Says:

    Well said Rick! That cultural influence is so powerful.

    Thanks for your thoughtful comment.

    I like your blog and will be adding it to my blog roll.

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