Comments on: How to know what you want http://www.thedisquiet.com/the-disquiet/how-to-know-what-you-want/ A place for discussion and questions on articles, news and issues pertaining to navigating the unease in men's lives. Thu, 17 May 2012 09:24:33 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.5.1 By: Engaging the Disquiet » Blog Archive » Working with your Disquiet takes humility http://www.thedisquiet.com/the-disquiet/how-to-know-what-you-want/#comment-1742 Engaging the Disquiet » Blog Archive » Working with your Disquiet takes humility Sat, 26 May 2007 19:48:39 +0000 http://www.thedisquiet.com/discussions/how-to-know-what-you-want/#comment-1742 [...] To do his though, a man must turn down the volume of his ego’s need to get it right, look good or be smooth about it. The act of learning to listen to where you are out of synch with what is most important to you takes courage and openness. It takes a willingness to look at some raw stuff and be able to be awkward as you learn a new way to go in your life. [...] [...] To do his though, a man must turn down the volume of his ego’s need to get it right, look good or be smooth about it. The act of learning to listen to where you are out of synch with what is most important to you takes courage and openness. It takes a willingness to look at some raw stuff and be able to be awkward as you learn a new way to go in your life. [...]

]]> By: Dave Schoof http://www.thedisquiet.com/the-disquiet/how-to-know-what-you-want/#comment-653 Dave Schoof Fri, 23 Mar 2007 11:11:32 +0000 http://www.thedisquiet.com/discussions/how-to-know-what-you-want/#comment-653 What a challenge to change other's perceptions of your role! It sounds it couldn't have been possible without you staying focused of your love for them. Thanks for your inspiring story! What a challenge to change other’s perceptions of your role! It sounds it couldn’t have been possible without you staying focused of your love for them. Thanks for your inspiring story!

]]> By: Robyn McMaster http://www.thedisquiet.com/the-disquiet/how-to-know-what-you-want/#comment-620 Robyn McMaster Thu, 22 Mar 2007 13:33:05 +0000 http://www.thedisquiet.com/discussions/how-to-know-what-you-want/#comment-620 Hi Dave, I had disquiet when I was about 40. Basically it came from the role & expectations put on me because of the way I was positioned as a woman at the time I was growing up and married. I learned to live a submissive role. Thus, family and friends were comfortable with me in that role expected me to live that role. I value all these people dearly so with a lot of time and patience, I have gently helped them to be more comfortable with wife and mom who's a leader and researcher. Dave, I went back to university to obtain a PhD at age 58. Now I'm a very different person than I ever imagined at 40. Hi Dave, I had disquiet when I was about 40. Basically it came from the role & expectations put on me because of the way I was positioned as a woman at the time I was growing up and married. I learned to live a submissive role. Thus, family and friends were comfortable with me in that role expected me to live that role.
I value all these people dearly so with a lot of time and patience, I have gently helped them to be more comfortable with wife and mom who’s a leader and researcher.

Dave, I went back to university to obtain a PhD at age 58. Now I’m a very different person than I ever imagined at 40.

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