Comments on: Learn more about my take on the Disquiet http://www.thedisquiet.com/the-disquiet/lifetwo-interview/ A place for discussion and questions on articles, news and issues pertaining to navigating the unease in men's lives. Mon, 21 May 2012 17:35:04 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.5.1 By: Dave Schoof http://www.thedisquiet.com/the-disquiet/lifetwo-interview/#comment-1646 Dave Schoof Mon, 21 May 2007 00:47:26 +0000 http://www.thedisquiet.com/the-disquiet/lifetwo-interview/#comment-1646 <strong>Ron:</strong> Thanks. I hope my experiences hep others see some of the same things and that they can work with it. <strong>Stuart</strong>: Yeah - the most damaging aspect of this is seeing the Disquiet as a failing or that something is wrong. What if it were this really elegant warning system alerts you that you are off course? Ron: Thanks. I hope my experiences hep others see some of the same things and that they can work with it.

Stuart: Yeah - the most damaging aspect of this is seeing the Disquiet as a failing or that something is wrong. What if it were this really elegant warning system alerts you that you are off course?

]]> By: Stuart Baker http://www.thedisquiet.com/the-disquiet/lifetwo-interview/#comment-1645 Stuart Baker Sun, 20 May 2007 23:20:16 +0000 http://www.thedisquiet.com/the-disquiet/lifetwo-interview/#comment-1645 Dave, it is good to see you interviewed here. You were asked some good questions, and your responses provide solid insights into your own disquiet and the phenomenon itself. You make the important distinction that men tend to see their disquiet as a failing and/or something to be "fixed", if they address it at all. Congratulations on your needed work and the increased recognition you are receiving. Be well. Stuart Baker www.consciouscooperation.com Dave, it is good to see you interviewed here. You were asked some good questions, and your responses provide solid insights into your own disquiet and the phenomenon itself.

You make the important distinction that men tend to see their disquiet as a failing and/or something to be “fixed”, if they address it at all.

Congratulations on your needed work and the increased recognition you are receiving.

Be well.

Stuart Baker
http://www.consciouscooperation.com

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]]> By: Dave Schoof http://www.thedisquiet.com/the-disquiet/lifetwo-interview/#comment-1636 Dave Schoof Sat, 19 May 2007 16:56:28 +0000 http://www.thedisquiet.com/the-disquiet/lifetwo-interview/#comment-1636 Thanks for the great story Newman. It really applies. Even though I have learned to engage it, the Disquiet can still pack a punch when it roars doesn't it. I suspect it is like meditation. Mastery doesn't mean you can blank out your mind, you just get quicker at knowing when your mind has wondered away from the breath. I think mastery around the Disquiet is learning to recognize it earlier and to work with it. Thanks for the great story Newman. It really applies. Even though I have learned to engage it, the Disquiet can still pack a punch when it roars doesn’t it. I suspect it is like meditation. Mastery doesn’t mean you can blank out your mind, you just get quicker at knowing when your mind has wondered away from the breath. I think mastery around the Disquiet is learning to recognize it earlier and to work with it.

]]> By: Newman Hart http://www.thedisquiet.com/the-disquiet/lifetwo-interview/#comment-1635 Newman Hart Sat, 19 May 2007 16:21:24 +0000 http://www.thedisquiet.com/the-disquiet/lifetwo-interview/#comment-1635 David, In this interview you have provided a most excellent response to the transition that we men must contend with at mid-life. Embracing the disquiet is mush like running toward the roar of the toothless lion. A story once told of hunting lions in Africa is that the aging lion, worn and toothless, would continue to hunt with the pack but would lie in wait in the tall grass. When a gazelle would come along the aging lion would give a huge roar frightening the gazelle in the opposite direction but directly into the mouths of the strong young lions. The safety for the gazelle would have been to run toward the roar! The disquiet you speak of is much like this roar. Embracing it the way you describe is ‘safety’ to the man in his midlife passage; to resist it unleashes all manner of crisis to himself and his important relationships. We men must still grapple with the important issues of the disquiet; it would be so much simpler to do it though without a corresponding crisis. Thank you David for raising this insight that so many of us men need to hear. Sincerely, Newman Hart FortySixty.Org David,
In this interview you have provided a most excellent response to the transition that we men must contend with at mid-life. Embracing the disquiet is mush like running toward the roar of the toothless lion. A story once told of hunting lions in Africa is that the aging lion, worn and toothless, would continue to hunt with the pack but would lie in wait in the tall grass. When a gazelle would come along the aging lion would give a huge roar frightening the gazelle in the opposite direction but directly into the mouths of the strong young lions. The safety for the gazelle would have been to run toward the roar!

The disquiet you speak of is much like this roar. Embracing it the way you describe is ‘safety’ to the man in his midlife passage; to resist it unleashes all manner of crisis to himself and his important relationships. We men must still grapple with the important issues of the disquiet; it would be so much simpler to do it though without a corresponding crisis.

Thank you David for raising this insight that so many of us men need to hear.

Sincerely,
Newman Hart
FortySixty.Org

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