Comments on: Our dad is affecting our careers…still

By: Dave Schoof

Dave Schoof — Fri, 24 Nov 2006 19:59:36 +0000

Thanks Dawud! I like how you found a way to balance what was needed and to use what was valuable.

I have found too many times, I threw the baby out with the bathwater in my rejecting what I didn’t like seeing that which came from my dad.

The way you describe is more useful.

It’s also more honoring of what he gave you as a legacy around work. Very cool.

By: Dawud

Dawud — Fri, 24 Nov 2006 15:30:40 +0000

I definitely took on some things from my dad. He worked a lot. And as I grew up, I found myself working a lot too. Not so much in the “work-a-holic” sense. But more from “that’s just what you do.” Yet, over time, I’ve reworked my beliefs so to create more balance and ease in my life.

My dad also knew how to play hard too. When it was time for leisure, he soaked it up like a dry sponge. I’m much like that as well.

For me, when it’s time to work - work hard. And when it’s time to play - play hard.

By: Dave Schoof

Dave Schoof — Thu, 23 Nov 2006 17:30:55 +0000

Thanks Archie. That is certainly my goal.

I think as more folks post here, start conversations, ask questions and leave comments, it will take shape as a place that is safe to take on issues that matter.

pls come back often and share your thoughts and concens!

Best,
Dave

By: Archie

Archie — Thu, 23 Nov 2006 17:25:38 +0000

Thanks for creating this.

Men, especially, have a hard time
dealing with any subject that suggests something is “wrong” with them.

I hope we feel safe enough on this site to talk about the things we face as men that are the “undiscussables” That it is OK not to have life completely under control.