Comments on: What is the deal with turning 50? http://www.thedisquiet.com/the-disquiet/what-is-the-deal-with-turning-50/ A place for discussion and questions on articles, news and issues pertaining to navigating the unease in men's lives. Thu, 08 Jan 2009 12:00:18 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.5.1 By: Engaging the Disquiet » Blog Archive » What do you mean 50 isn’t 30? http://www.thedisquiet.com/the-disquiet/what-is-the-deal-with-turning-50/#comment-1205 Engaging the Disquiet » Blog Archive » What do you mean 50 isn’t 30? Wed, 11 Apr 2007 01:07:24 +0000 http://www.thedisquiet.com/discussions/what-is-the-deal-with-turning-50/#comment-1205 [...] OK, so as I continue to spar and dance with my current surge of Disquiet, turning 50; I added some napalm to the fire: [...] [...] OK, so as I continue to spar and dance with my current surge of Disquiet, turning 50; I added some napalm to the fire: [...]

]]> By: Dave Schoof http://www.thedisquiet.com/the-disquiet/what-is-the-deal-with-turning-50/#comment-896 Dave Schoof Sat, 31 Mar 2007 15:33:24 +0000 http://www.thedisquiet.com/discussions/what-is-the-deal-with-turning-50/#comment-896 Hi Jessica - I howled when I read your post - you are sooo right. When you find that lobotomy procedure, give me a shout. I bet we can get a group discount! Seriously - BRAVO for following your own path. It can be hard to do alone so find good folks to reflect back who you are along the way. Cheers! Hi Jessica - I howled when I read your post - you are sooo right. When you find that lobotomy procedure, give me a shout. I bet we can get a group discount! Seriously - BRAVO for following your own path. It can be hard to do alone so find good folks to reflect back who you are along the way. Cheers!

]]> By: Jessica W. http://www.thedisquiet.com/the-disquiet/what-is-the-deal-with-turning-50/#comment-816 Jessica W. Fri, 30 Mar 2007 01:32:40 +0000 http://www.thedisquiet.com/discussions/what-is-the-deal-with-turning-50/#comment-816 Ok....is it disturbing to anyone else that I am doing the same thing Dave is doing...only I'm stressing about turning 30 and how different my life is from the majority of my friends? What I wouldn't give to have that part of my brain "removed" that compares myself to others! Maybe I'll wish for that when I blow out my 29th birthday candles! Ok….is it disturbing to anyone else that I am doing the same thing Dave is doing…only I’m stressing about turning 30 and how different my life is from the majority of my friends? What I wouldn’t give to have that part of my brain “removed” that compares myself to others! Maybe I’ll wish for that when I blow out my 29th birthday candles!

]]> By: Engaging the Disquiet » Blog Archive » What do you mean 50 isn’t 30? http://www.thedisquiet.com/the-disquiet/what-is-the-deal-with-turning-50/#comment-444 Engaging the Disquiet » Blog Archive » What do you mean 50 isn’t 30? Sat, 17 Mar 2007 08:11:01 +0000 http://www.thedisquiet.com/discussions/what-is-the-deal-with-turning-50/#comment-444 Click on the link above to read a related article. Click on the link above to read a related article.

]]> By: Dave Schoof http://www.thedisquiet.com/the-disquiet/what-is-the-deal-with-turning-50/#comment-364 Dave Schoof Tue, 13 Mar 2007 00:05:40 +0000 http://www.thedisquiet.com/discussions/what-is-the-deal-with-turning-50/#comment-364 LOL - Rhea you are right about the faking part. My sincere hope - and I already suspect it's true - is that you no longer care about needing to fake it ;-) LOL - Rhea you are right about the faking part. My sincere hope - and I already suspect it’s true - is that you no longer care about needing to fake it ;-)

]]> By: Rhea http://www.thedisquiet.com/the-disquiet/what-is-the-deal-with-turning-50/#comment-358 Rhea Mon, 12 Mar 2007 20:19:43 +0000 http://www.thedisquiet.com/discussions/what-is-the-deal-with-turning-50/#comment-358 When the first person in my circle of friends turned 50 I breathed a sigh of relief, as I knew it wouldn't be ME for many years to come. Now I am 48 and a half. I think 50 is not young. 40, you can still fake it. 50, no. When the first person in my circle of friends turned 50 I breathed a sigh of relief, as I knew it wouldn’t be ME for many years to come. Now I am 48 and a half. I think 50 is not young. 40, you can still fake it. 50, no.

]]> By: Dave Schoof http://www.thedisquiet.com/the-disquiet/what-is-the-deal-with-turning-50/#comment-301 Dave Schoof Sat, 03 Mar 2007 02:55:36 +0000 http://www.thedisquiet.com/discussions/what-is-the-deal-with-turning-50/#comment-301 THe real age test is fun. I was surprised I did better than I thought - it had me at 51. I was worried it might have been 72! THe real age test is fun. I was surprised I did better than I thought - it had me at 51. I was worried it might have been 72!

]]> By: Dave Schoof http://www.thedisquiet.com/the-disquiet/what-is-the-deal-with-turning-50/#comment-300 Dave Schoof Sat, 03 Mar 2007 02:54:27 +0000 http://www.thedisquiet.com/discussions/what-is-the-deal-with-turning-50/#comment-300 Jpan - good point. There is a more going inward isn't there? You are right - if we could do that earlier in life...how it might be different? Jpan - good point. There is a more going inward isn’t there? You are right - if we could do that earlier in life…how it might be different?

]]> By: Dave Schoof http://www.thedisquiet.com/the-disquiet/what-is-the-deal-with-turning-50/#comment-299 Dave Schoof Sat, 03 Mar 2007 02:52:41 +0000 http://www.thedisquiet.com/discussions/what-is-the-deal-with-turning-50/#comment-299 Stuart - thanks. Lisa - well said! I know what you mean - I don't want big blowout celebrations. I really like what you say about it becoming smaller and more intimate. I can sense that as well. I find myself wanting to be much more deliberate and discriminating on what I focus and spend my energy on. Good insights - thanks. Stuart - thanks. Lisa - well said! I know what you mean - I don’t want big blowout celebrations. I really like what you say about it becoming smaller and more intimate. I can sense that as well. I find myself wanting to be much more deliberate and discriminating on what I focus and spend my energy on. Good insights - thanks.

]]> By: MrKlaatu http://www.thedisquiet.com/the-disquiet/what-is-the-deal-with-turning-50/#comment-297 MrKlaatu Sat, 03 Mar 2007 02:28:44 +0000 http://www.thedisquiet.com/discussions/what-is-the-deal-with-turning-50/#comment-297 Take the RealAge Test. http://www.realage.com/reg/regassess.aspx?mod=LONGFORM&cbr=NEXS2_P Take the RealAge Test.

http://www.realage.com/reg/regassess.aspx?mod=LONGFORM&cbr=NEXS2_P

]]> By: Jpan http://www.thedisquiet.com/the-disquiet/what-is-the-deal-with-turning-50/#comment-295 Jpan Fri, 02 Mar 2007 23:07:45 +0000 http://www.thedisquiet.com/discussions/what-is-the-deal-with-turning-50/#comment-295 It is strange how ones' outlook on life changes as the years fly by.In a way you start thinking more of yourself than others, in what you have done and hope to do. Where do I fit in life now, why has it changed so much, and what will I do in the future? Can reaching 50 really change things that much? No, it is just a number but it does make us stop and think about what we do for the rest of the time that we have. In some ways maybe this should have happen before 50! It is strange how ones’ outlook on life changes as the years fly by.In a way you start thinking more of yourself than others, in what you have done and hope to do. Where do I fit in life now, why has it changed so much, and what will I do in the future? Can reaching 50 really change things that much? No, it is just a number but it does make us stop and think about what we do for the rest of the time that we have. In some ways maybe this should have happen before 50!

]]> By: Lisa http://www.thedisquiet.com/the-disquiet/what-is-the-deal-with-turning-50/#comment-294 Lisa Fri, 02 Mar 2007 21:58:34 +0000 http://www.thedisquiet.com/discussions/what-is-the-deal-with-turning-50/#comment-294 hi Dave- I will be 50 in 2 months. I find it shocking, although somewhat exhilirating.I want to believe that it holds surprised and treasures that we are not aware exist until we move into that developmental place. Every big milestone and decade has brought major shifts, and gifts. I think I would be completely embracing ALL of the promise of that if it wasn't for all my fears around the physical- women often become somewhat invisible as they age, and I don't want that. I also have not put much energy into trying to fight aging, other than good self care and being myself. Still- no matter how you cut it, 50 is a big deal. I don't know why-I do not want any big celebrations. As I age my life becomes smaller and more intimate , more deliberate in terms of who I share it with. Still have a couple of months to decide how to welcome the decade. when is your actual birthday??? xox Lisa hi Dave-
I will be 50 in 2 months. I find it shocking, although somewhat exhilirating.I want to believe that it holds surprised and treasures that we are not aware exist until we move into that developmental place. Every big milestone and decade has brought major shifts, and gifts. I think I would be completely embracing ALL of the promise of that if it wasn’t for all my fears around the physical- women often become somewhat invisible as they age, and I don’t want that. I also have not put much energy into trying to fight aging, other than good self care and being myself.
Still- no matter how you cut it, 50 is a big deal. I don’t know why-I do not want any big celebrations. As I age my life becomes smaller and more intimate , more deliberate in terms of who I share it with.
Still have a couple of months to decide how to welcome the decade.
when is your actual birthday???
xox
Lisa

]]> By: Stuart Baker http://www.thedisquiet.com/the-disquiet/what-is-the-deal-with-turning-50/#comment-289 Stuart Baker Fri, 02 Mar 2007 14:19:49 +0000 http://www.thedisquiet.com/discussions/what-is-the-deal-with-turning-50/#comment-289 Dave, I suspect that you are now hitting your stride much more now than you were several years ago, and the world is a better place for it. Everything that you did and did not do has helped lead up to today. Keep it up! Dave, I suspect that you are now hitting your stride much more now than you were several years ago, and the world is a better place for it. Everything that you did and did not do has helped lead up to today. Keep it up!

]]> By: Dave Schoof http://www.thedisquiet.com/the-disquiet/what-is-the-deal-with-turning-50/#comment-288 Dave Schoof Fri, 02 Mar 2007 04:14:11 +0000 http://www.thedisquiet.com/discussions/what-is-the-deal-with-turning-50/#comment-288 Thanks Ron - it's interesting that it pops up again. Pamela - You are right and no matter how much we learn that is the way to go, attachments bubble up don't they. Thanks Ron - it’s interesting that it pops up again.

Pamela - You are right and no matter how much we learn that is the way to go, attachments bubble up don’t they.

]]> By: Pamela http://www.thedisquiet.com/the-disquiet/what-is-the-deal-with-turning-50/#comment-285 Pamela Thu, 01 Mar 2007 16:53:51 +0000 http://www.thedisquiet.com/discussions/what-is-the-deal-with-turning-50/#comment-285 We shouldn't be worried about the accomplishments we didn't meet. There's nothing else you could do about the past. On the other hand, we should be more concerned about our present condition and how to build up things for the future We shouldn’t be worried about the accomplishments we didn’t meet. There’s nothing else you could do about the past. On the other hand, we should be more concerned about our present condition and how to build up things for the future

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